Chinese Wedding Traditions

Chinese Wedding Traditions and Taboos – How Many Do You Know?

According to Chinese wedding tradition and beliefs, there are certain things which should never be conducted or done during your big day. In this article, we will share a list of do’s and don’ts that one should avoid at all costs in order to ensure a smooth sailing, auspicious Chinese wedding day. As a guest and as a host, both need to take care of these traditions.

Chinese Wedding Traditions That You Might Not Know

1. Avoid Going to Certain Events

Prior the three months before the couple’s wedding, it is best to avoid going to attend events such as:

– A funeral or wake

– Another wedding

– Visiting a woman who has just had a baby.

If one of the couple’s parents passes away before the wedding, the wedding must be postponed for 100 days or 1,000 days as attending happy celebrations is considered disrespectful to the deceased.

2. Red Clashes Red

If the bride meets another bride on the wedding day their luck may clash. The matchmakers or the bestmen from the two bridal parties will exchange red packets on the couple’s behalf to neutralize the effect of the clash.

3. No Sleeping in Bridal Bed

No one should sleep on the bridal bed after it has been installed and blessed. If the groom must sleep on the bed before the wedding, he should not sleep alone as leaving one side of the bed empty is considered a curse on the couple’s health. To avoid leaving half of the bed empty, the groom should have a young boy, preferably born in the year of the dragon, accompany him in bed.

4. Color of Decoration Matters

In modern wedding, people love to use different colors to suit for different themes . However, the safest color to use in a wedding is red. It can be red table cloth, double happiness symbol, bedding and any other things you can think of. Besides red color, gold and purple are good choices too.

White, blue, green are mourning colours and should not be used for wedding decorations. Pale yellow or white chrysanthemums floral arrangements are used at funerals or at visits to ancestral graves and should not be used for weddings.

5. Superstition of being a bridemaid more than 3 times

As the friend of bride, do not be a bridesmaid more than three times. Doing so creates a negative effect on your own marital luck, causing you to have difficulties finding someone to settle down with.


6. Check Chinese Zodiac Sign of Bridesmaids and Best-men

Persons born under horoscopes that clash on the wedding day are not invited as bridesmaids and best-men, or invited to the wedding day activities. However, they can attend the wedding banquet.

The Chinese pay close attention to the Chinese horoscope when they are picking auspicious wedding days so they do not want their zodiac sign that would clash on the day.

7. No Wedding Celebration if You are Still Mourning

Persons in mourning are not to attend any celebrations and entertainment within 100 days of the death as a form of respect for the dead. So they will not attend any wedding celebrations.

8. Knowledge of Eating a Fish in Wedding Banquet

During Chinese wedding dinners, steamed fish is usually one of the main dishes served. According to eating taboos, one should never turn the fish over nor break the fish bones when eating fish when it is served whole. This is sure to have a negative effect on the newlyweds.

9. Is She a Virgin?

If a roast pig is included as part of the bride’s home visit gifts, be careful not to break the ears or tails accidentally. An imperfect roast pig implies that the bride is not a virgin.

10. Avoid Holding Wedding During Important Chinese Festival

In general , the Chinese avoid holding their wedding on certains month of the year. They are namely:

– During the first lunar month to avoid clashing of luck with the Chinese new year.

– The third lunar month (Ching Ming Festival)

– The Lunar seventh month (commonly known as the Hungry Ghost Festival or ZhongYuan Festival)

– The ninth month(Chung Yeung Festival) are also avoided due to the negative yin (阴) forces.

– The lunar sixth month is also avoided due to the traditional belief of the sixth month being a half-year, and therefore implies a half-marriage.

11.No Meeting The Day Before Wedding

In the past, Chinese believed that the bride and groom should not meet each other the day before the wedding. However, this taboo is no longer strictly observed. The taboo is now observed in a modified manner; the bride and groom will not sleep under the same roof the night before the wedding. The bride and groom will usually meet up on the day before the wedding to finalize their wedding arrangements and collect the bridal gowns, suits and flowers, etc.

12. 100 Days or 1000 Days?

Touch wood! If there is a death of either parent from the 2 families that occur before the wedding, the couple has 2 choices. The first one is to get married within 100 days, while the 2nd one is 1000 days as a respect of the deceased.

What are your thoughts on these Chinese wedding traditions? Do you think you will follow them?




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